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Behaviors and feelings rarely match up; the heart and the head are known for not always working well with each other. They see in different visions. The heart see’s what we want to see and the head see’s what is. And more often than not, the visions don’t match. We tend to think we see each other clearly but we often see ’our’ version. We have an idea of the other person in our head, but in reality we don’t let them be who they really are.
You can think you know someone but if you never try to see them for who they are, truly are, then you don’t love them enough. People tend to think that love is all fire and heat and promises of perfection. Everythings like that when it’s fresh and new, but that’s just the feeling of ‘being in love’, which we can all convince ourselves we are. But love, actual love, is what’s left over after the feeling of being in love has faded away.
When you’re young you have such high expectations of each other. So many needs. And as you get older… You just want someone who understands. You may have lived different lives and loved different people but there will always be that… that understanding you share. There is something to be said for seeing someone for who they really are. For feeling like you know, truly know, one another. Like you’ve known each other forever. Like you can see right into them and them into you.
For most that’s a terrifying feeling. To be open and raw. To have all your flaws and mistakes laid out in the open. People are afraid of love sometimes. I think that’s why many of us seek out either consciously or subconsciously, certain people and stay in relationships that are easy. That make us feel comfortable, because of that fear; because of the vulnerability that comes with doing otherwise.
Many like things that are concrete. Something you can point to and know what it is. I think that’s why people struggle with God and I think that’s why people struggle with love. They can’t touch it. They can’t hold on to it and make sure it never changes. But if you truly love something, you never try to keep it the way it is forever. You have to let it be free to change. But you don’t have to be that way; afraid I mean. Because sometimes it’s those things that you can’t touch that you need to hold on to the most.
Now I don’t believe in soul mates, not exactly. I think its hard to believe that there’s only one person out there for us. What if your ‘soul mate’ lives in Zimbabwe? What if they die young? I also think ‘two souls becoming one’ is ridiculous. You need to hold onto yourself. You can’t be each other’s crutch. But, I do believe in souls being in sync, souls that mirror each other.
Souls that strengthen each other. That inspire one another. Two souls that fit together like a puzzle piece; two individuals coming together making something greater than themselves. It’s a feeling of … completion. They complement each other. Their a match. An equal. ‘I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,’ as the Song of Songs goes. Their combination is one of pure need. Where each heart and soul cries out for the other. It’s a feeling of coming home…
I think that’s what love is. It’s an understanding of the souls…
Husband’s Food Art for Pregnant Wife on Bed Rest
After finding out she was pregnant Shirley Sirivong was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, complete placenta previa, and incompetent cervix. She was put on bed rest and a strict special diet. In the early months of bed rest, Shirley’s “dull” breakfasts were limited to egg whites, wheat bread, peanut butter, and a few fruits and veggies. To liven up Shirley’s bland meals, her husband Gat began to create funny faces out of boiled eggs and toast.
“After a few days of that,” Shirley told us, “they started to become more elaborate scenes.”
Too sweet! Who wouldn’t want a husband like that?
You can read about the couple here and see all the photos of her husbands breakfast art here.